Black men do not think like Black women!
My late mother used to say, “Be careful what you wish for. You just might get it”. Marriage in America has been on the decline for many years now. When it comes to Black marriage, the decline is more pronounced.
So let me get this straight. The number of Black folks getting married is dropping like a rock falling from a skyscraper and YOU, Nicole Ari Parker, married to a younger man for over a DECADE who appears to be sculpted from central casting, birthed his two children, live in a beautiful home living a fairy-tale existence and you miss being single?
In the aftermath of the recent live stream presentation of “Date Night” with Boris Kodjoe, his wife Nicole Ari Parker, and Mr. & Mrs. Chris Spencer, there has been a lot of chatter going on between Black men and Black women on social media. One would have to be oblivious and disconnected to know that as a collective, Black men and Black women view this situation differently.
When the question “do you miss being single”? was posed, the ONLY person who confirmed missing the “single life” was Nicole Ari Parker.
I will go on record and say that I do not believe that she was being malicious in her response. In addition, I don’t think that it was her intention to publicly disparage her incredibly tall, handsome, physically fit, biracial, articulate, cultured and financially well-off husband. However, I DO believe that she, like many Black women, became far too comfortable in making private statements available for public consumption and scrutiny.
According to records, Nicole Ari Parker has been married to Boris Kodjoe since 2005. They are the proud parents of two children. On the outside looking in, Black women will admit that Nicole hit the jackpot when Boris “put a ring on it.” When the average Black woman presents her “list” of requirements in a mate, I would be hard-pressed to believe that Boris Kodjoe or men of his ilk don’t meet over 95% of those requirements. Yet, it seems that no matter how great the package is, there is always some level of dissatisfaction present. So let me get this straight. The number of Black folks getting married is dropping like a rock falling from a skyscraper and YOU, Nicole Ari Parker, married to a younger man for over a DECADE who appears to be sculpted from central casting, birthed his two children, live in a beautiful home living a fairy-tale existence and you miss being single?
While I understand why your husband defended you and told the world that “you were misquoted”, old married dudes like myself see it for what it is. Women like her are delusional into thinking that going back to being a single woman would be a better situation than her current marriage. I’m certain that it has never entered your mind that in a blink of an eye, your husband is more than capable of granting you your wish to be single again. Allow me to be the bearer of this news. You are free to take it or leave it. You are NOT single. You are NO LONGER 25 years old. You are closing in on 50 years old! News Flash…..The Boris Kodjoe-types ARE NOT checking for you! I repeat….THE BORIS KODJOE-TYPES ARE NOT CHECKING FOR YOU!!! Get it? Got it? Good! I highly recommend that you count your blessings and name them one by one.
I got married in 1993 and like Chris Spencer and your husband stated, I don’t miss being single one iota. Do you want to know why? As the old folks would say, “I know what I have. I don’t know what I’m getting.” ALL marriages go through different seasons, EVEN a season of monotony, dryness and boredom. Guess what? The public will NEVER hear me express my desire to be single again because, quite frankly, there’s nothing outside of my marriage that I cannot get from within it. I don’t know you. You don’t know me. One thing I do know. If you don’t get a hold of that tongue of yours, you could very well find yourself being in the position you wished for the other day….single again. Ma’am…for Christ sake, guard your tongue and have a little more respect for your incredible husband and marriage. I’m out! Deuces!
♥ Love changes everything.