"Neither understands that their partner is not their enemy but their joint enemy is satan; for so often he is at the center of the issues of confusion, strife, selfishness and impatience."
It’s interesting because many times the folk in the marriage become selfish because neither feels they are getting what they need from the other person; hence a spiritual shift begins to happen. If two people are to walk as one fulfilling destiny components that are required and needed for God’s kingdom; then it makes sense that there is another power at work beside the initial relationship between the husband and wife.
It is his job to steal, kill and destroy. No love emanates from him whatsoever; his only focus is to tear down and reap destruction. So often couples miss this and place blame on each other rather than recognizing the true heart of the matter.
Sister’s if you are not sharing with your husband you are cutting off your spiritual supply; for he is your covering. Mind you, if you feel he is not in position than your responsibility is to pray and assist and stand in position until he comes full circle and regains his rightful responsibility. This is HIS mandate and you are the helpmeet; which means you are to meet the help(s). So many wives miss that point that they are NOT the head. No matter how they choose to act, disrespect, pitch hissy fits, etc. they can never fulfill the husband’s responsibility for that was never in God’s design/master plan.
I remember years ago one of the elderly women telling us to use the duck method/ministry. This means the wife continues to maintain her status quo as the helpmeet through prayer, her duties and her respect. As she does that she should duck, because as the man is standing behind her then God would meet him head on. Actually the thought process was BOOM…..and he got knocked out. Now mind you that the elderly woman’s understanding is not defined through scripture; but we can clarify that the husbands prayers are hindered and he will be held accountable for his behavior to his wife by God.
So the focus was teaching the wife that she was to do everything necessary in regards to the relationship. Her submission is a choice…a choice in love and respect. When a wife does not do that she cuts off her own nose in spite of her face; and in reality when she does that she cannot expect to be covered in prayer for she has opened up certain doors. Mind you it is still the obligation of her husband to pray for her but she takes her life into her own hands…she has ripped at her own covering and is attempting to wear apart the seams.
♥ Love changes everything.