'I will not be dumb when it comes to LOVE!’
Here are some simple tips to help you with your dating life. Not everything is a red flag. However, some of us need some assistance to know the difference.
When it comes to dating, TIME reveals ALL things! If they are rushing, then check to see if other things are going on! Not everyone is here, but more often than not, many want to lock you down for life! Clank! Clank!
It is important to know the season you are in and who you are. Have you healed from your last relationship? A tip: take some time to assess what went wrong and the part you played in the breakup.
Some people date to fix their life. Do not collect $100 or go past GO!
Dating should not be equated with sex. Dating is gathering information. Sex is simple sex. Dating is NOT sex. Too often we mix the two. They are NOT the same!
Intimacy requires vulnerability and that is difficult to do if you operate out of your insecurities. It is OK to talk about your past in the right context. It is healthy! Just be aware that sometimes people have emotional triggers that often show up in dating when the behavior from their past pops up. Be agreeable, have the conversation with the expectation that this might occur.
Please understand that having sex with them does not mean they love you. It is OK to date without bringing sex to the table.
People are dating trying to fix their hurt. Simple. Do they need therapy? Do you? Some people need therapy before they even begin dating. It is hard to manage your emotions when they are all over the place, i.e. healing is necessary.
Men are continually saying that women do not know what they want out of a relationship. Well, a woman who doesn’t know herself is a danger to herself and those around her. I state you are a danger because you allow your emotions to rule your life. Simple. Sis, learn your proclivities and pressure points. Then bring that to the table.
Marriage will not fix your internal issues. Two hurt individuals do not make a whole marriage. And should you decide to move forward you have to be willing to say, ‘we’re going to work through our issues together’. Just note that holding onto the toxicity of one’s past will affect the marriage/relationship.
Ladies learn to speak a man’s language. You cannot talk at him and expect him to hear you. Respect is important to him.
Men, women need communication. She needs to be fed emotionally. Stimulate her mind!
Ladies, please act appropriately. Grown women respond accordingly. You cannot act like a little girl. Little girls are little girls for a reason and women are women for a reason.”
Ladies, every man that you come across doesn’t mean he’s for you.
Have you ever noticed that despite the circumstances of life that your goals rarely change but the people do? Sometimes it is the ones we hook up with that hold us back. When you live, learn, and make better choices in life your love choices adjust accordingly as well.
When you look at that person you are interested in, do you look at how they fit into your life goals, your life journey? Have you asked yourself if this person/relationship is healthy for me? Remember, that some people do not want to heal. They like drama and will pull you into their mess.
Do not date out of fear or loneliness. You can be alone without being lonely.
Always look at their character first! Character DOES NOT lie!
Last but not least, do not rush for time will reveal what you need to know. Time reveals ALL things!
♥ Love changes everything.