It might just be me; but it irritates me when a man I don’t know or am not in a ‘familiar relationship’ calls me sexy.
Let me explain what I mean by ‘familiar relationship’. I have quite a few male friends that I’ve connected through over the years. They are my true friends and I can count on about three fingers the ones who I dated and or was in a ‘real’ relationship with; and with that being said let me continue…LOL. Please note that rarely do any of them tag ‘sexy’ to me and or my name unless they are ‘feeding into me’ on a personal level; and typically that ‘feeding’ was after I went through my divorce. Check it out…they were assisting me in rebuilding my self-esteem for I survived an abusive marriage a few years ago. More so, I believe they have the upmost respect for me; as I for them. SO-OOO, if one should actually call me sexy I would be less apt to be upset versus a brother I DON’T KNOW came at me with that PARTICULAR word.
See this is the thing I believe that men should honor women just as women should honor men; and I EXPECT TO BE HONORED AS A WOMAN AND TAKE MY ROLE VERY SERIOUSLY.
On the other hand, if you know a bro or two this MIGHT APPLY to…pass this good word along to them. We must all work to change the face of relationships and it starts with one person who shares with others to change mass thoughts, procedures and or actions. I’m sure you’ve heard of the expression, ‘reach one, teach one’.
It’s interesting because I find disrespect towards the ladies on various levels from movies, videos and even musicians depicting woman a certain way. I understand that some of the lack of respect might be warranted based on CERTAIN WOMEN’S behavior; but bro what happened to YOU being the PRIEST and KING of this world? What I love about the brother’s that are in MY circle is their ability to see life from a different perspective for they are VISIONARIES.
In addition, I appreciate when they share their thoughts and desires with me but even more so what warms my heart is their uncanniness to correct a sister if she needs correction. Now don’t get it twisted, I have to be transparent and state that often I will blow up at them, or carry that corrective mode (sulk…lol) for a day or two and NOT speak to a bro…LOL. But when I FINISH processing what they gave me and comprehend they were on point and accurate; then I’m on the first train of HUMBLE pie admitting my faux-pas and shower them with the PROPER RECOGNITION they deserve. After all isn’t that what most brother’s want, RESPECT AND ADORATION FROM A LADY?
As for me, I have NO PROBLEM in giving honor where it is due. In fact I prefer to deposit into a visionary than a pessimistic man. In fact, there are times I have told a bro I’m about to build your ego up and proceed to do so…LOL. The reality is I LOVE to do it; but when I get disrespected with the ‘sexy’ word – I feel just like you do when your life is void of the proper admiration – from your woman. After all isn’t respect a two-way street?
Now mind you for SOME women they appreciate that particular word; and with that being said, then I must state they truly are NOT aware of WHO they are and WHO they belong to. Imagine approaching the Queen of England with those words on your lips…I think NOT! Ok, I confess I stretched that illustration/visual a bit, but you get my point…LOL.
I believe another dilemma we have today in society’s progressing forward in general; and the usage of the word sex among other things is – – WE have OVERALL pulled bedroom components into the streets; whether it be voyeurism, pornography, etc. Sex sells. Sex is sexy. Sex is exciting. It’s like viewing life through a fence, i.e. the grass is greener on the other side. Remember, what I said last week about the fence? It’s on the other side. See once you go through that gate it’s often hard to return to your territory. (If you missed last week’s blog, click here for the read) Man of Discipline
See I’m a woman that belongs to God first so I don’t need a bro to tell me about my sex and how I look…what he’d like to do to me, etc. because God’s word tells me I’m beautiful and wonderfully made no matter what my skin color, hips, lips and thighs speak to a man. My inner-core of my spirit is what speaks to the man…and he’s only using his eye-gates to see the surface of my human soul. Now a brother who sees beyond all that and sees who I am in God’s eyes…now that is a brother I am drawn to because he sees the TRUE BEAUTY OF WHO I TRULY AM. Now when MY MAN calls me beautiful…well that’s another story. Keeping it 100 a woman’s man has rights that other bro’s don’t and the intimacy between the two of them, i.e. their private thoughts and or actions are deeper than any surface comments or look-sees. Hey maybe I’ll discuss that in the upcoming weeks – Bee’s view of intimacy…we shall see.
♥ Love changes everything.